Rebuilding Trust After Infidelity
The proven method Together Through Despair To Heal and Reconnect
Begin the journey of healing with our step-by-step method, created to help couples move through the pain of betrayal and rebuild a stronger, more connected relationship.
Infidelity can feel like an earthquake in your relationship—shaking its very core and leaving both partners struggling to find solid ground. If you are the betrayed partner, the pain and despair can feel overwhelming. If you are the one who betrayed, the weight of guilt and confusion can be just as heavy. The road ahead may seem impossible to navigate. Yet healing is possible. With the right guidance, countless couples have not only rebuilt trust but discovered a deeper, more resilient love on the other side of betrayal.
Discover Our Program
Our guided program gives couples a clear, step-by-step pathway to begin rebuilding trust and finding connection again after infidelity.
Together Through Despair
*Together = Samen in Dutch. The (Dutch) acronym S.A.M.E.N. is formed by the first letters of the five modules of the program: Standing still, Amputate, Mildness/compassion, Evaluate and New opportunity.
Five modules
Standing still
Amputate
Let go of what stands in the way of healing. This means ending harmful connections and behaviors, and making clear choices that protect your relationship.
Mildness
Create space for empathy and understanding. Here you learn to face conflicting emotions with gentleness, allowing both partners to express their pain and be truly heard.
Evaluate
Take time to notice the progress you’ve made. By checking in regularly, you ensure both partners feel supported, understood, and on the same page in the healing journey.
New opportunity
Step into a renewed future together. This stage is about rebuilding trust, deepening connection, and laying a stronger foundation for a more resilient relationship.
Why Choose This Program?
Expertly Crafted
Created by Ferdinand Bijzet, an experienced systemic and Gestalt family and relationship therapist with decades of work in guiding couples through trust crises.
Proven Methodology
Built on a unique blend of proven therapeutic approaches, the program offers a holistic pathway to healing trust and restoring connection
Flexible Learning
Designed for real couples in real life, it includes practical exercises, reflective prompts, and clear steps—so you can move forward in the way that fits you best.
Success Stories
Take the First Step Towards Healing
Infidelity doesn’t have to be the end of your story. With the right support and a shared commitment, you can rebuild trust and grow an even deeper, stronger connection than before.
Get Your Access Today for Only $127 p.p.
Invest in the future of your relationship. Start the Together Through Despair program today and take the first steps toward healing and reconnecting—together.
About the author
Ferdinand is a licensed family therapist (NVRG) and European certified psychotherapist (ECP) with over 20 years of experience helping couples rebuild trust after betrayal. In 2009, he specialized in guiding couples through crises caused by infidelity and sexual addiction.
Out of this work he developed Together Through Despair (S.A.M.E.N.), a structured online method for restoring trust and connection. Since its launch in 2016, the program has grown into a network of over 60 trained therapist partners in the Netherlands and Slovakia. Together, they have already supported hundreds—perhaps thousands—of couples on their journey from despair to renewed intimacy.
Frequently Asked Questions
Is this program suitable for couples who haven’t experienced infidelity but are facing other trust issues?
Yes. While the guide focuses on healing after infidelity, the principles and exercises apply to many situations where trust has been broken. Couples facing different kinds of trust challenges can still benefit deeply from this process.
Can we work through this method at our own pace?
Absolutely. The program is designed with flexibility in mind, so you and your partner can move through the steps in a way that fits your own rhythm and unique situation.
What if my partner is reluctant to participate
Ideally, both partners walk this journey together. But even if one starts alone, the reflections and exercises can bring valuable insight—and sometimes this gentle beginning encourages the other partner to join later.
